Flaws...

Flaws

I am comfortable with flaws. They exist in every one of us. We all believe it is an innate human trait to be flawed. Sometimes we hide our flaws, sometimes we embrace them and sometimes we even boast about them. What I fail to understand tonight is how far would I go to correct my flaws and in some cases those of my loved ones? It is human to be flawed, but the very basis of evolution says otherwise. We were designed to be the peak of evolutionary hierarchy through millions of years of trial and error. Therefore I sit and ponder tonight, It should be my prerogative to improve and be the best I can be. Right? However what if these are the very flaws that are constituent of me as a person. What if these flaws have endeared me to my loved ones? Now, for a role reversal! What if I want to get rid of the flaws of my friends? But that is the very flaw that defines them? What should I do? It’s a popular adage that “If you love someone, you love them with their flaws” I am wondering, what if I do not buy that, what if I want to love someone despite their flaws and then want to help them overcome their flaws? Is it logical? Or is it a sign of my “God Complex”? Given that I myself am not perfect, then is this a sign of hypocrisy if I want to make my friend the best he/she can be? Is it because advice given is easier than advice taken?

I have tried sometimes to point out flaws and almost always met with resistance. This confuses me. Aren’t my loved ones supposed to be their optimum with me? Is it not part of my job as a son/brother/boyfriend/friend to push them to be more? Or am I just taking the choreographer in me everywhere and he wants to get the perfection out of people? After much pondering I put myself in their shoes. Would I want anyone to constantly point out my flaws and push me to be better? Frankly I do not know. A control freak like me giving control to someone else.!! Alarms start going off everywhere. But then again have I found someone that I would like to give my reigns and allow myself to be vulnerable? That is surely not going to be easy for me. But one thing I will accept is I will aim to be better, even if it is pointed out by someone else. Because in spite of my flaws I cannot accept not making the effort to overcome them. Isn’t this the way it should be? Acceptance of flaws is human, it is noble even. But why stop there? I believe that is the first step. But for our own sake let it not be the last. We owe ourselves more than that, don’t we? Let’s take pride in being us. Yes flaws will always be there because man in not meant to be perfect. But he is almost bound to try. Hence I will keep trying. And I most definitely will be a little better than yesterday and a little flawed than tomorrow. I hope you do the same too.

:)